When Getting Older Gets Stressful

Things that happen when you get into your 40s:

  • You literally can forget how old you are
  • Getting drunk requires a day after strategy
  • The # of people you like or can tolerate decreases over time
  • Doing nothing is everything
  • You start losing your childhood movie and rock stars AND IT SUCKS
  • For those that have lost a parent too soon, you start wondering if you’ll make it past their age

That last one is a doozy. I lost my mom in her mid 50s way too soon, and every year I get closer it’s what I think about. Will I make it past the age she lived? What choices do I have to make to ensure I do?

It sucks. It’s stupid. You shouldn’t live your life worrying about those sorts of things, but for those that have lost a parent too soon, you know what I’m talking about. For whatever reason, your 40s are where you start thinking about getting older and it’s a constant struggle.

I want to go out more…my wife and I both do. But it’s hard god damn work! You know how much easier and better it usually sounds to wear sweat pants and just lay on the couch eating things dipped in cheese? Way easier. But I want to still go out. I want to still feel young. And sometimes we do…it’s just harder.

You get in your 40s and it’s like you become your own agent. You have to strategize…make plans…think ahead. You want to play in that baseball or basketball tournament over the weekend? Sure, no problem. Better free up your Monday so your bones can heal.

Oh, you want to head out on St. Patty’s day and have a “few” drinks into the wee hours? Okay…do I have to get up before 12 tomorrow so I can recover from rolling around in my own sick all night?

I can’t even watch a damn movie without going into shock and awe about how it’s 10 or 20 years old already but feels like it just came out a few years ago.

The one that gets me every time? 30 years ago was 1987. In 1987, 30 years ago was 1957. WTF?! Is that math right?! How can that be? My brain can’t compute with that.

It seems like it was just yesterday I was some dumb kid trying to figure it all out. Now I’m a dumb 43 year old still trying to figure it out. Do we ever?

So what’s the morale to this seemingly dumb blog article? (hey, if you’ve gotten this far, it’s on you)

Worry about the things in life that you CAN control. That’s been my motto that I’m trying to live by these days. Once you’re able to do that, stress becomes more manageable..time seems to slow down a bit.

Things dipped in cheese helps too.

3 Reasons Why You Should Pre-Order My First Book

Lots of people say they want to write a book, but most never get around to it. That’s because it’s hard. Damn hard. It takes a tremendous amount of dedication and determination to see it through. I’ve had this story in my brain for as long as I can remember. It’s changed, it’s evolved, it’s combined with others, but it’s now ready to be told. I’ve outlined, character developed, plotted, shared, revised..you name it…I’m ready. I’m ready to do this.

But I need your help. I’m partnering with a platform called Publishizer. It’s pretty cool stuff. They allow authors to launch pre-order campaigns in order to gauge interest in book ideas. Think of Kickstarter for books I guess. If I can hit roughly 500 pre-orders, I’ll be able to attract a publisher for my project thus making my dream of publishing a book a much bigger reality.

So why you should you pre-order? Well if you’re family or a friend, hopefully you’re already convinced. If not, or for those who aren’t, try these 3 reasons on for size.

    1. It’s a killer story. I know I know, I’m impartial. But trust me when I say that the hundreds of people I’ve pitched the story to all have the same reaction…I want to read that book (or see that movie). This is a concept I’ve worked on for 10+ years and I believe with every ounce of my being that it will be a great story to read.
    2. Charity. I don’t care about the money on this deal. I just want to hold up a book and be able to say “I WROTE THIS!”. I want to feel that sense of accomplishment. And because of this, I’m donating proceeds of this effort to Holding Hands, an incredible youth homeless shelter in my neck of the woods that helps kids in terrible situations with a safe place to stay while they transition to a better home.
    3. Proving if I can, anyone can. The publishing industry is all over the place, and it’s an incredible mystery and monumental task to try and figure out how a first time author can get published. I’ve learned so much, and while my fate is yet to be determined, I’m confidant I’ll reach the finish line and I have every intention of using my experience as a spring board to teach others of the model that got me there and help them achieve similar goals.

I could go on and on, but the whole purpose of this blog post is the hope that you will click through to my Publishizer Pre Sale page and check it all out. The story, my book trailer, and most importantly, your incredible support in purchasing the book. I promise it will be a fantastic story to read and in the process you’ll be helping me make this a reality and giving to a great cause in the process.

Small Business Owners And Data Security

This post brought to you by Carbonite. The content and opinions expressed below are that of Jason Yormark.

The importance of data protection in our day and age has grown exponentially. Practically everything is moving to the cloud, and at the same time, more and more instances of identity and data theft are happening at an alarming rate. It can get really easy to de-prioritize how you manage your data whether it’s local or cloud based. Most people feel like they are immune to the threats, and small business owners are no different. Options such as Dropbox and OneDrive are great for personal use but don’t offer data protection and automatic back up solutions. When you own a small business, you really need something that is designed to be flexible and grow with your business. That’s where a company like Carbonite comes in that is a leading provider of data protection solutions.

There are plenty of small business stories involving lost data and I’m a perfect example of such in that I just never felt I was ever at risk, but I learned the hard way that it happens. I’ve experienced data loss on hard drives and laptops in my past before moving my data to a cloud based system. It felt more safe to me to have my stuff “protected” by not having it in the cloud, but that approach was the opposite of what I needed to do. Being a content creator I had quite a bit of documents, video, audio and photos that were lost simply from an external hard drive crashing and being unrecoverable.

In addition, during my time as a small business owner I found myself purchasing frequently on corporate cards on online sites and despite my mild attempts at protecting my financial and personal data, I was hit hard. My personal information was stolen and used to open a corporate credit card in my name. I believe this came from storing personally identifiable information locally as opposed to keeping those things more secure in a cloud based system. That’s what you get if you just keep your data on your laptop with little to no security. After experiencing both episodes of data loss I’ve moved to a cloud based system for all of my data, and haven’t had any episodes of data loss or identity theft.

On the surface having your data backup in the cloud might seem counterproductive to staying safe, but it’s quite the opposite. Cloud solutions like Carbonite are built from the ground up around keeping data safe from all threats such as vindictive ex-employees, accidental deletes, or even acts of nature. While it’s important to use traditional protection such as firewalls and anti-virus programs, that just protects your borders. All it takes is one errant click on a bad link by an employee and you’re compromised. Same goes for insurance coverage; important, but insurance is only going to cover replacing systems, not lost data that lived on those systems.

What small business owners need to get right with (and anyone for that matter), is that moving your data to the cloud is the safest, most cost effective way to protect your data not only from theft, but from situations often out of your control.

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Do People Really Suck This Bad?

I’ve never cared about politics. It’s all bullshit really. Nobody is going to save us. Nobody is going to swoop in and make your life better. That’s up to you. I’ve always concentrated my effort on the things I can control. Taking care of the things in my world. My friends, family, co-workers, etc. It’s a far better and more productive use of my time. But this past election cycle has been unavoidable. It seeps and oozes into your life no matter where you are or what you’re doing. It’s been the ultimate shit show. If it wasn’t so depressingly sad and pathetic, it might actually be entertaining to watch.

Because of what I do, I see everything. Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, you name it. And because of that, I’ve had to endure months of people’s political BS. It’s become like a car wreck. You practically can’t turn away. When did we become a society of people that can’t respectfully disagree with one another? For months all I’ve seen are people attack one another on who they support and/or what they believe. Not to mention 2 candidates that can’t seem to spend a single minute talking about their qualifications or what they would actually do in office. They’ve spent the majority of their time attacking and disrespecting each other. I get it. That’s politics. But sure seems like it’s reached an all time high.

Name calling, profanity, anger, un-friending, you name it. It starts to really hit home when you start to see it in a network of people that you thought you actually knew. Friends, family, acquaintances. People you thought you knew or kind of knew, all of a sudden losing their shit, or acting like their opinion is the ONLY opinion. And if you don’t agree, well than you’re a racist, homophobe, criminal, etc. Guilt by candidate association.

I’ve tried to stay out of it, and for the most part I have. Sometimes I feel like my wifey and I are the only normal people left in the world. The only people that can see that both candidates are seriously flawed. But also that both of them could probably change some things for the good. We’re not blinded by everything we read, see and hear. We don’t feel so strongly about a candidate that we completely dismiss other’s opinions and certainly not to the point where we judge others based on their’s. Where are all those people? Can we all go live on an island together and get away from the crazies? I feel like I’m living in an episode of The Walking Dead, but instead of zombies it’s Clinton or Trump zealots.

Lots of people say as you get older you start to like people less. There’s certainly some truth to that. I think it’s more about you having less patience and tolerance for things that are upsetting or shitty in your life. Makes sense. Hell, I’m all about maximizing the remaining time I have on this marble and spending it doing the things I want with the people I actually give a shit about…and I find that number shrinking.

Do people really suck this bad? I hope not. But this election cycle has certainly brought out the worst in a lot of people. I feel like this has opened up a can worms that is not going away anytime soon. Let’s be honest, there’s a very high likelihood that whoever wins this thing is going to be a 1 term president. I know there is better out there to choose from, but they probably don’t have the money, power and influence to be more than a blip on the radar.

Such is life. Maybe I’ll start a Kickstarter for Normal People Island. Anyone in?